3 Reasons Why a Woman Will Say No to Dating Her Ex Again

1. She Doesn’t Want to Call it “Dating” Because That Makes it Sound Like She’s Going to Commit to a Relationship

So, rather than referring to it as a “date” or asking her to consider “dating” you again, just refer to it as “meeting up” or “catching up.”

That takes the pressure off her and she can then relax and see what happens when you do meet up in person.

If you will make that simple change to your wording, you will see an immediate shift in how she reacts to your suggestions.

Why?

In approximately 90% of the ex back cases that I’ve worked on over the years, when a guy interacts with his ex woman and sparks some of her feelings again, she immediately or very quickly becomes open to meeting up with him in person and seeing how she feels.

Yet, she doesn’t want him to refer to it as a “date” because that makes it feel as though it’s a date and then a relationship.

She first wants to see if he has truly changed and improved the things that caused her to break up with him in the first place (e.g. he wasn’t being enough of a man for her, he had become insecure), or if he’s just been putting on an act to get her back and will soon go back to being the same guy that was turning her off before.

For example: A guy might be clingy and overly protective in a relationship with a woman, so after she breaks up with him, to get her back he might try to be more easy-going and relaxed around her.

Yet, once she agrees to dating him again, he may then slowly start falling back into his old ways (e.g. getting upset if she tries to do things independently of him, insisting on knowing her every move, looking over her shoulder when she is using her phone, asking about her male coworkers, asking what her girlfriends have been saying about him).

For these reasons, a woman will usually say “No” to dating her ex again until she feels confident that he has truly changed the things about himself that turned her off and isn’t just pretending to get her back.

So, in cases like that, a guy just needs to keep showing his ex (via his actions, behavior, communication style and the way he responds to what she says and does now), that he really has changed.

He needs to do that regardless of whether she is being open and friendly to him or not.

Why?

Many women will act cold or become closed off after a break up, because they don’t want to make it easy for their ex (especially an insecure ex) to feel confident as he gets her back.

She wants to see that he is confident with or without her help and reassurance of her feelings.

2. She Currently Doesn’t Feel Enough Respect and Attraction For Him

Generally speaking, most women don’t just give up on a relationship with a guy for no reason at all.

For a woman to break up with a guy, she will have usually reached a point where she is thinking things like, “I don’t know why I’m with him anymore. I used to enjoy being around him and he used to make me feel good. I used to love it when he touched me and kissed me, but now I don’t feel attracted to him anymore. I don’t feel like I’m being my real self when I’m around him either because I seem to always be in a bad mood. I want to smile and feel happy with my man, rather than feel like I need to get away from him to breathe and feel normal again.”

In most cases, when a woman reaches a point where she’s thinking like that, she may hint about what’s bothering her in an attempt to get the guy to change his behavior.

If he doesn’t notice or doesn’t care to change for her and continues behaving in ways that turn her off, she will gradually lose respect for him.

Without respect, it then becomes very difficult for her to feel sexually attracted to him and without respect and attraction, she will then start to disconnect from her feelings of love and will usually just break up with him if she gets a sense that he just won’t change.

So, when a guy comes back after a break up and says something like, “Please give me another chance! Let’s just try and work things out. Why don’t we just start dating again and see where things go? I’m okay with taking it slow if you want” it usually doesn’t work.

Most women will think something like, “Huh? Why would I want to date you again? Based on your recent actions, I don’t believe anything about you has truly changed. So, I think I’d prefer to remain broken up rather than get back into the same rut that we were in before.”

She knows that he will be on his best behavior if she says yes to dating him and will likely buy her gifts, take her out to fancy dinners and try to romance her.

Yet, all of that is not him. It’s just stuff and things outside of him.

A woman needs to be in a relationship with you, not the things you give her.

She has to be able to feel sexually attracted to you, not what you do for her out of the kindness of your heart.

So, what should you do instead?

Start making her feel attracted to the new you…

A woman will usually say no to dating her ex again, unless he makes a sudden, dramatic change in how he communicates and interacts with her and re-sparks her feelings of respect and attraction for him.

Without re-sparking her feelings first, she’s just going to keep behaving coldly towards him and saying, “No. I’m not interested in dating you again.”

Yet, when he makes some adjustment and improvements to his behavior and the way he interacts with her (e.g. he’s more confident and emotionally mature vs. being insecure and needy, he’s more relaxed and can handle her distant attitude vs. getting upset, being emotionally sensitive and taking things too seriously) she will naturally begin to change her opinion about him.

She may start thinking, “He is definitely behaving differently now, compared to how he behaved before we broke up. He’s being so much more mature and emotionally strong now. I could possibly say yes to dating him again if he behaved like this from now on.”

When she starts to think like that, she drops her guard and becomes open to meeting up or catching up with you to see what happens.

On the other hand, if a guy tries to get his ex back without first re-sparking her feelings for him (i.e. by showing her that he’s now a different man to the one she broke up with) and instead continues to interact with her in ways that turn her off, then she’s just going to say things like, “No…I’m just not interested. Please leave me alone.”

So, if you want to turn your ex’s no into a yes, make sure that you re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you first.

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